Growing up, I struggled to make meaningful friendships with other girls. I never quite fit in. I talked “funny”, I wasn’t considered pretty, I didn’t wear name-brand clothes, and I liked “nerd” topics. Despite all this, I never lost interest in developing deep, intimate relationships with other women. Throughout my life, I’ve been lucky to find my Gems, the most authentic, kind, confident, and loving women I’ve ever met. Female friendships provide a depth that I rarely find in male friendships. She can become your confidante, your crutch, your sister.

My Gems have brought immense joy and support into my life. When I reflect on the relationships I’ve built, I see a tapestry of shared experiences, laughter, and tears. These friendships have been my lifeline during tough times and my source of joy during good times. They have helped me grow, understand myself better, and navigate the complexities of life.

I want to share my experiences with women who may have given up on friendships. Or worse, believe that women are inherently catty, jealous, and can’t be friends. The truth is, many women that you will come across aren’t meant to be your friends. They are on their own paths, and have unique needs in their relationships.

Building and maintaining female friendships requires effort and vulnerability, but it is incredibly rewarding. If you’ve ever felt like an outsider, know that there are women out there who feel the same way, who are looking for meaningful connections just like you are.